Hello Lilies. I’m pretty sure a lot of you have seen the movie “Eat, Pray, Love.” For me, it was one of the best movies I’ve ever seen because I could totally relate to it, and it was shown during the time that I was exploring the world and myself.
If you haven’t seen it, the movie is about a woman who seemed to be having the perfect life. She was married to a decent businessman and she was doing well in her career. The thing is, she’s unhappy. She was broken and lost. She prayed the first time and experienced her first encounter with God. She asked Him to tell her what to do and God did so. She then, divorced her husband, sold everything she had, and went to travel in Indonesia, Italy and India. To make the long story short, a lot of things happened, she was brought back to life, she found her life balance and she found the love of her life.
The movie was based on a true story and it serves as a big proof that traveling changes someone’s life. Here are the reasons why travel is the antidote to your broken heart.
1. You’ll search for something inside you that you don’t know what is. When you feel broken, you feel empty, and you search for the cause of that emptiness. It feels like you were grasping for something in the dark, hoping to find something that would make you feel whole. You literally have no clue about life. It would then take you time to find out what it was, and you will stumble upon it unexpectedly. What’s great about this is that while you’re doing your search, you’ll most likely to find a lot of beautiful things that will be useful to you in the future. When I was traveling, I was seeking for something I don’t know of. I’ll go to beaches, and look at everything around me. I’ll ask, “What is my life about?” I’ll look at the trees, the mountains, the sea, the people, and somehow, my emptiness is filled a little. I’ll see the beautiful world as I search for whatever it is. When eventually, I found out what it was, I became whole. I became at peace, and I can say that nothing could ever break this peacefulness inside me. That thing I found is knowing God’s purpose for me.
2. It’s easier to break bad habits. According to Charles Duhigg, neuroscientists have traced our habit-making behaviors to a part of the brain called the basal ganglia, which also plays a key role in the development of emotions, memories and pattern recognition. Decisions, meanwhile, are made in a different part of the brain. But as soon as a behavior becomes automatic, the decision-making part of your brain goes into a sleep mode of sorts, thus, forming habits. When our surroundings are changed, certain patterns would be broken, and routines would be disrupted. This is the reason why traveling is the best way to change your bad habits in dealing with heartbreak, like over thinking, paranoia, despair, self-pity, listening to sad love songs and eating sweets. Did you know that our habits define who we are? When we change our habits, we change ourselves. Traveling is a way to redefine who we are and who we want to be.
3. You get out of your comfort zone. Sometimes, when you travel, you will be surprised to what is waiting for you. There are some things that you would sign up for, and you’ll get is the least of all your expectations. I remember when I signed up for a tree planting trip, I was thinking farm lands, so I went there wearing pants and flat shoes. I didn’t know that we’re planting on a mountain, although they told us that the walkways are developed and flat. As we hiked, it started to rain, and the mountain was steep and slippery. I was worried because the pants are really uncomfortable and the shoes are not the best shoes ever. It was such a challenging trip, but in the end, we were able to do it successfully. I was even able to make new friends because of the hawak kamay moments. I am also proud of myself because I was able to do it. Once you feel pride about something, it can boost your self-confidence.
4. You connect with others. Yes, the internet and social media is a way to connect easier with other people. I am grateful, because if not for them, we won’t be meeting, you know. But social interaction in person still has a greater impact. You’ll feel more connection because the energies are present. You’ll meet people and the more you do, you’ll have a broader understanding for everyone. You’ll realize that life is about compromise, because everyone is different. You’ll be more patient and understanding and it will be easier for you to accept whatever it is that broke you.
5. You become independent. Traveling is about exploring new terrain, and in the journey, you’ll get to encounter different scenarios, and it depends on how you’ll respond to it. Since you only have yourself, you’ll be more careful and wise, thus making you self-reliant. Plus, traveling is liberating.
6. You get to know yourself more. When you travel somewhere you’ve never been before, you’ll experience situations you’ve never experienced before. You will realize, “Wow. I can’t believe I did that.” Or, “Really? I like fried frog?” You’ll have a deeper relationship with yourself, and this will help you in your decision making in life, because now, you know what you REALLY want and what you don’t want. You’ll know what you’ll allow and don’t allow. It is easier for you to walk out of something your not happy with, whether it’s a job, your friends, or your partner.
7. You’ll meet new people. As you journey through life, you will change. You’ll meet people who will become your friends. You will have a deeper understanding with yourself, with preferences when it comes to connecting with someone, and you’ll only choose to be with the people who will add more to your life. You realize, the world is big, and you should never settle, because a lot of people are out there who will accept you and will make your life more fun to live. When you go back home, it might happen that you will leave some of the old people in your life, because now you know that it’s what’s best ever since.
8. You get out of your head. Seeing something amazing will let you stop thinking about all the heartbreaking stuff you had been thinking of for a long time. Traveling is refreshing, because it let’s you see that the world is big, and there are a lot of things that matter more than the bad happenings you are experiencing right now.
In summary, traveling transforms you into a new person. You grow. Your perspective and preferences will change, your understanding will be broad. You’ll discover what real life is and you Traveling does not only heal your heart, but makes you discover who you are and what your purpose in this world will be.