There are people who already knew what they wanted to do for the rest of their lives the moment they were born. I wasn’t one of them. Since you’re here, I’m assuming you are like me too. If you think about it, we have an advantage. This journey to seeking our purpose in life is fun, filled with adventure and excitement, and will lead us to having this precious bond with ourselves that we will treasure for the rest of our lives. The best moments of my life is when I was on the search – the search for who I am, what I really want, and what I decided will be my purpose in this world. It was fun, and all sorts and kinds of stuff. There are lots of failures, heartbreaks, and rock bottom moments but there are more happy and exciting things during this time.
It’s story time my friends! I like to share how I was able to discover what I really want to do in life, and it was one hell of a roller coaster ride.
When I was in grade school, my mom would buy stickers and would ask me to sell them to my classmates, and all the money that I could earn will be mine. That’s when my interest to business and selling started. (I love making money!)
Some time in my grade 3, our maid would sing a song and I will sing along with her. That’s when my mom found out that I have a singing voice and that I should be a singer. But it didn’t work out because I wouldn’t join singing contests because they’re lame (truth is, I’m scared to death). I would still sing though because it makes me happy and alive. I realized that singing is just a hobby that soothes my mood making me the cool and fun person I am.
I was in high school when I made my first blog post in blogger. I became obsessed since then.
It was also in high school when we traveled to Australia, Hongkong and Macau. Travel became my obsession since then. I obsessed about visiting every place in the world.
I went to college, still not knowing what I really wanted to be. I decided to take up Accountancy because I’m really good at math, but then I figured that the course isn’t really about Math and more about analyzing and balancing sheets. Being the extremist person I am (I’m the type to be called at the school’s guidance office for doing some silly rule breaking stunts), I know I had to shift or else, I’ll waste more time and money (and a huge chunk of my life) or I’ll die from boredom. I shifted to AB English because I love writing, but the course got dissolved, so I shifted to Communication Arts, also didn’t work out. Then I shifted to Advertising, and fell in love with everything about it. I love Advertising because the money and fun is there. I know that there is a creative side of me (we all have, we just have to explore it) that I haven’t untapped yet at that time, and Advertising revealed that side of me, which is very liberating. Designing and creating things out of pressuring your brain to make something up, is a pressure that I am definitely enjoying. It’s never boring. Art and business is fun! And I don’t have to worry about being poor because the big money is in Advertising (thank you media!)
I was happy at school, I have the best people, I am happy with life, and the guy that I liked wanted me back. Life was great. But then some unexpected things happened. (Have you ever experienced that moment where everything is seemingly perfect and then life suddenly decided to mess it up, because, you know, God was bored perhaps?) One day, my dad got depressed and decided to stop working and our life crashed. The guy that I love doesn’t really want me, and I’m broke AF. I had to stop school. I left home because it’s messed up in there. I applied for a job as a sales assistant, and lived alone near my work. I realized I love selling. I love the challenge and the psychology behind it, that’s why. I also worked as a real estate consultant, waitress, and had a lot of sidelines on the side. During those times, I read a lot of books, and tried to master them all. Because I was alone and broken, I tried to survive through learning how to love myself. Also, since I have all the free time, and I would study about life in general. I bought all the books that intrigued me. I was friends with Brian Tracy, Robert Kiyosaki, Napoleon Hill, Zig Ziglar, Robin Sharma, Tim Ferris, Paolo Coelho, Bo Sanchez, and many many more. I would travel a lot – climbing mountains, going to the beach, trying a lot of adventures, meeting new people. I also read a lot of relationship books and applied them by dating every guy that asked me out (which is fun haha). I would date them once and if I don’t think I like them, I would not see them again. Reading all those books and learning a lot, realizing how big the world is, made me realize that I had to share so many messages to people, those who are like my old self who needs it. The greatest achievement that I had during those times was to be able to find happiness and peace even at the lowest point of life. It was a big deal. Because of the new perspective I had set in my mind, not only was I able to live a happy and peaceful life, but also was I able to share it to the closest people to me. I would share this mindset with my friends and they would be amazed because this mindset is changing their lives.
That’s when I knew what I really want to do in life – I want to inspire women and show them a different perspective. I want to build a community of women who will continue to change the world in their own special ways – through having a strong foundation of self-love.
But how will I make things work? I try solving the puzzle.
How can I do this without jeopardizing my dream of traveling? What are the tools that I have that I can use to make this work?
I had to share a message, so I had to figure out the media that I will use.
Since I love writing, it has to be writing.
Since I studied advertising, it has to involve graphic designing, branding, copywriting, events organizing, marketing and advertising.
Since I love selling, it has to involve selling.
Then it dawned on me. Blogging and writing a book is the answer. Thanks to Tim Ferris’ ideas, I can still travel the world through blogging. Then that’s when everything made sense.
Years after discovering my purpose, I am now the happiest.
My advice is simple:
TRY EVERYTHING. DO SOMETHING BOLD. DO SOMETHING THAT YOU’VE NEVER DONE BEFORE! You can’t figure out what you want if you hide in your shell. You have to know what you can do, and what you can’t. You have to know what comes easy for you and what gives you hell. Jump off cliffs. Eat an exotic food. Travel a lot. Meet different kinds of people. Take classes and jobs out of your field. Just do it.
And do these things alone. Discover who you are when you are alone. Discover what makes you happy when you are alone. In that way, you won’t need anyone to make you happy, because you can do it yourself. It will be hard and lonely at first, but it takes time to appreciate the journey.
Take the things you love and leave the rest. Write your discoveries down. Don’t push what doesn’t work. It didn’t work out because it isn’t for you.
And then once you discover what things you love, you connect the dots. You solve the puzzle. Think of the things that you love and try to solve what you can make up with all of it. Then it’s up to you to decide what your purpose really is. It’s all in your hands. But don’t rush it. It may come slow, it may come fast, but what’s important is that you find what will cause you a lifetime of happiness.
Lastly, pray. Pray to God to lead you to the best path for you. Have a solemn talk with him. “God, is this for me? What do you really want me to do? Guide me and I will follow.” I promise you, he will show you the way, like he did with me.
Good luck and have fun on your journey! I’d be happy to help you with your questions about finding your life purpose. Just give me a comment below!