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HELLO, DEAR FRIEND! CONGRATULATIONS TO BOTH OF US! WE FOUND EACH OTHER!

First and foremost, tell me about yourself! Feel free to comment on this post and share with me your story. I really want to hear it and be able to contribute. I promise to respond. Or if you want some more private conversation, send me an e-mail at hello@madamlily.com. I'll be waiting!

Okay. I'd like to share with you the story of how this blog happened and what inspired me to create such empowering place for women like you.  

WARNING: Long story approaching. Grab a cup of fresh milk and some chocolate chips for a more fun experience.

Years ago, I was just like millions of women in the world - miserable and had no direction. I'm alive, but I'm not really living. I have a lot, but I still feel empty. I have family and friends, but I don't feel loved. I can do anything, but I don't have the drive to pursue whatever. I'm laughing and having fun, but I'm not happy. I feel like I always needed to be filled up, by something I don't know what is. It's as if, I'm looking for meaning. Can you relate?

And then, a series of unfortunate events shook my life, blew me up for good, took my identity and threw it away. My world just exploded into a giant piece of mess, with no warning. What are these events that happened to me?

  • I met a guy I thought I love and loves me back. He made promises and told me things too good to be true. Predictably to everyone (except me), he was a sad little guy who just love to play with people's hearts. *Who do you think you are? Running round leaving scars?* 
  • Just months after having my heart badly broken, because of too many issues and complicated things, my dad, my ultimate hero, got depressed and he ruined himself through alcohol, cigarettes and drugs. It was his turn to break my heart. 
  • Because of his addiction, my family got broke. We lost everything down the drain. We lost our money, properties, assets, confidence, self-respect,"friends", "family" and many other things. My parents both didn't have a job. My brother left home and lived with my aunt.  
  • I had to stop studying 2 years prior to getting my Bachelor's Degree.
  • I left home without anything, not even money to buy food. I wasn't thinking at all. I just want to be away from home. Hell is even better than that place. I became homeless, transferring from a friend's house to another. Then got a job as a waitress and rented a place to stay.
  • I was young, alone, broke, scared, depressed and traumatized. I was 18.

Everything was a mess. I wasn't damaged physically, but my soul reeked of brokenness. It was the lowest point of my life. 

In some cases, young people who are going through these kinds of events in their lives often self-destruct. I was so close to destroying myself that time, just to "feel good", you know, by smoking, drinking, and other self-sabotaging ways. Actually, I did destroyed myself, but not too long. I had managed to think, and gave all my remaining strength to fought the urges, stayed still and prayed instead. I prayed, HARD. I prayed for guidance, strength and healing. I talked to God asking him to help me because I don't think I could survive anymore. I told him I want to be happy, and give me the happiness that I want. After that I felt calmer, and days after that, doors started to open. This time, I was still alone, but I felt more hopeful. It's as if a voice within me told me that there is a reason for all of this. I took the courage to believe that everything will be alright. I called that voice Madam Lily - my inner bigger self.

And she's right. Tell you what, these things happened to me for one reason: to bring me to a life I've always wanted. 

I recalled, everything started falling apart when I had an epiphany to take control and create a life that I will absolutely love once and for all. I thought the universe was being mean because instead of helping me achieve that by sending me people, events and opportunities that would contribute to creating that life that I will enjoy, he sent me things contrary to what I'm asking for. Now, it dawned on to me that these things are in fact what I needed to be able to change.

Because I was uncomfortable, miserable and can't immediately change my situation, I needed to learn how to change my way of looking at things. So I did.

A lot things changed in the long run.  My values, beliefs and perspective changed. My priorities changed. The kind of people that I want to meet and will want in my life changed. My preferences changed. The things I intake - the books, movies, and other media - changed. I figured out my purpose, and spent time and energy only on the things that really matters to me.

And I realized that the only friend that I could ever rely on all the time is myself and God.

I went through an overall change. And now, my life has never been better. Today:

  • I am truly happy and at peace with myself. No BS. I no longer have to trick myself in wanting things, people and events that I really do not want. 
  • I discovered what my purpose is, and everyday, I'm doing ways to fulfill it.
  • I have great self-respect. I no longer take shit from anyone and I learned how to say no to things that will not help me grow.
  • I wake up everyday feeling more alive and passionate. I live everyday wanting to create new things and inspire people.
  • I developed a deeper understanding of people and events.
  • Instead of being selfish, I became more loving to other people, because I am able to give love because I have it.
  • I suddenly possessed the power to create my own life according to what I want.
  • Life suddenly became beautiful.

And these are all internal accomplishments that I want you to have too.

I really love sharing my story to you, especially to those people who need to hear it, because it serves as a good example of the truth that whatever situation you might be in, everything will be alright, as long as you believe that it will.

A FEW MORE FACTS ABOUT ME:

  • I am from a third world country, the Philippines, and I love my country because we have breathtaking beaches here. We have 7,107 islands all in all. (If you plan on visiting here, go to El Nido, Palawan.)
  • I work at home on my 2 online businesses. I value freedom more than anything else. 9-5 jobs are just not for me.
  • I just got married to my greatest love. We are going to travel the world in the mid-year. 
  • Before him, I had tons of first dates throughout my 4 years of singlehood. I did that because I love to research about how men think, and I have this rule that if I don't see the qualities of a guy that I want in a man, I won't give him a second date. It's a waste of time on both parties.
  • My father, as well as my family, is in the process of healing now.
  • I love cutting classes (that I think are a waste of time and money) just to read books (that I know will really help me in life) at the library.
  • I've climbed 13 mountains. I'm sooo addicted to surfing and wakeboarding.
  • I was only 17 when my life blew up, and I can't believe I'll say this but I'm grateful that these challenges happened early on in my life, because I was able to find myself early on as well.
  • My biggest struggle right now is exercising and eating less. Haha.
  • I'm a frustrated singer.

So that's me! I want to know about you too! How are you? What are you going through right now? What are your issues that I might help you with? Share your story at the comment section, or you can e-mail me at hello@madamlily.com. I'll be waiting!

HELLO, DEAR FRIEND! CONGRATULATIONS TO BOTH OF US! WE FOUND EACH OTHER!

First and foremost, I'd like to share with you the story of how this blog happened and what inspired me to create such empowering place for women like you.  

WARNING: Long story approaching. Grab a cup of fresh milk and some chocolate chips for a more fun experience.

Years ago, I was just like millions of women in the world - miserable and had no direction. I'm alive, but I'm not really living. I have a lot, but I still feel empty. I have family and friends, but I don't feel cared for. I can do anything, but I don't have the drive to pursue anything. I'm laughing and having fun, but I'm not happy. I feel like I always needed to be filled up, by something I don't know what is. It's as if, I'm looking for meaning. Can you relate?

And then, a series of unfortunate events shook my life, blew me up for good, took my identity and threw it away. My world just exploded into a giant piece of mess, with no warning. What are these events that happened to me?

  • I met a guy I thought I love and loves me back. He made promises and told me things too good to be true. Predictably to everyone (except me), he was a sad little man who just love to play with people's hearts. *Who do you think you are? Running round leaving scars?* 
  • Just months after having my heart badly broken, because of too many issues and complicated things, my dad, my ultimate hero, got depressed and he ruined himself through alcohol, cigarettes and drugs. It was his turn to break my heart. 
  • Because of his addiction, my family got broke. We lost everything down the drain. We lost our money, properties, assets, confidence, self-respect,"friends", "family" and many other things. My parents both didn't have a job. My brother left home and lived with my aunt.  
  • I had to stop studying 2 years prior to getting my Bachelor's Degree.
  • I left home without anything, not even money to buy food. I wasn't thinking at all. I just want to be away from home. Hell is even better than that place. I became homeless, transferring from a friend's house to another. Then got a job as a waitress and rented a place to stay.
  • I was young, alone, broke, scared, depressed and traumatized. I was 17.

Everything was a mess. I wasn't damaged physically, but my soul reeked of brokenness. It was the lowest point of my life. 

In some cases, young people who are going through these kinds of events in their lives often self-destruct. I was so close to destroying myself that time, just to "feel good", you know, by smoking, drinking, and other self-sabotaging ways. But what happened was, I still managed to think, and gave all my remaining strength to fought the urge, stayed still and prayed instead. I prayed for guidance, strength and healing. After that I felt calmer, and days after that, doors started to open. This time, I was still alone, but I felt more hopeful. It's as if a voice within me told me that there is a reason for all of this. I took the courage to believe that everything will be alright. I called that voice Madam Lily - my inner bigger self.

And she's right. Tell you what, these things happened for one reason: to bring me to a life I've always wanted. 

I recalled, everything started falling apart when I had an epiphany to take control and create a life that I will absolutely love once and for all. I thought the universe was being mean because instead of helping me achieve that by sending me people, events and opportunities that would contribute to creating that life that I will enjoy, he sent me things contrary to what I'm asking for. Now, it dawned on to me that these things are in fact what I needed to be able to change.

Because I was uncomfortable, miserable and can't immediately change my situation, I needed to learn how to change my way of looking at things. So I did.

A lot things changed in the long run.  My values, beliefs and perspective changed. My priorities changed. The kind of people that I want to meet and will want in my life changed. My preferences changed. The things I intake - the books, movies, and other media - changed. I figured out my purpose, and spent time and energy only on the things that really matters to me.

And I realized that the only friend that I could ever rely on all the time is myself and God.

I went through an overall change. And now, my life has never been better. Today:

  • I am truly happy and at peace with myself. No BS. I no longer have to trick myself in wanting things, people and events that I really do not want. 
  • I discovered what my purpose is, and everyday, I'm doing ways to fulfill it.
  • I have great self-respect. I no longer take shit from anyone and I learned how to say no to things that will not help me grow.
  • I wake up everyday feeling more alive and passionate. I live everyday wanting to create new things and inspire people.
  • I developed a deeper understanding of people and events.
  • Instead of being selfish, I became more loving to other people, because I am able to give love because I have it.
  • I suddenly possessed the power to create my own life according to what I want.
  • Life suddenly became beautiful.

And these are all internal accomplishments that I want you to have too.

I really love sharing my story to you, especially to those people who need to hear it, because it serves as a good example of the truth that whatever situation you might be in, everything will be alright, as long as you believe that it will.

A FEW MORE FACTS ABOUT ME:

  • I am from a third world country, the Philippines, and I love my country because we have breathtaking beaches here. We have 7,107 islands all in all. (If you plan on visiting here, go to El Nido, Palawan.)
  • I work at home on my 2 online businesses. I value freedom more than anything else. 9-5 jobs are just not for me.
  • I just got married to my greatest love. We are going to travel the world in the mid-year. 
  • Before him, I had tons of first dates throughout my 4 years of singlehood. I did that because I love to research about how men think, and I have this rule that if I don't see the qualities of a guy that I want in a man, I won't give him a second date. It's a waste of time on both parties.
  • My father, as well as my family, is in the process of healing now.
  • I love cutting classes (that I think are a waste of time and money) just to read books (that I know will really help me in life) at the library.
  • I've climbed 13 mountains. I'm sooo addicted to surfing and wakeboarding.
  • I was only 17 when my life blew up, and I can't believe I'll say this but I'm grateful that these challenges happened early on in my life, because I was able to find myself early on as well.
  • My biggest struggle right now is exercising and eating less. Haha.
  • I'm a frustrated singer.

So that's me! I want to know about you too! How are you? What are you going through right now? What are your issues that I might help you with? Share your story at the comment section, or you can e-mail me at hello@madamlily.com. I'll be waiting!